Do you have questions?

Asking better questions

The subconscious / unconscious mind is hugely powerful, regardless of any spiritual considerations of who or what it may be able to tap into. In and of itself it contains a vast store of information and memories, all with attached beliefs and emotions. The question is; what are you going to do with it? It’s a frustrating peculiarity of the human condition (or, at least, western ‘civilized’ conditioning) that many people devote a lot of time and energy to asking their subconscious to answer questions such as:

  • Why can’t I do this?
  • Why can I never get it right?
  • Why do they get all the breaks?
  • Why don’t I get any offers?
  • Why don’t they give me a chance?
  • Why does it always go wrong for me?
  • Why am I so useless?

The problem is that, ever obedient and resourceful, your subconscious will happily furnish you with answers to these questions. Many answers, and in graphic detail! As soon as you ask these questions you will be rewarded with images, sounds and feelings of all your past ‘failures’.

Remember when you were in school and the teacher told you you’d done it all wrong? The time when your parent(s) were displeased with you? The first time you tried to….. and made such a mess of it? When you asked someone…… and you got embarrassed? When you asked……. and got rejected? When you tried…… and failed? When you did…… and ended up feeling stupid?

It’s all there, all the evidence you ever need to confirm your low opinion and expectations of yourself. And when you ask, you rarely get one, you get the whole lot, all your failings, all your embarrassments, all the rejections. Your subconscious is keen, it wants to help! And so it gives you everything it can to support your idea – because you asked for it. Oh dear! So what’s to do? Fortunately there is a simple answer;

Ask better questions

It may sound obvious, but the obvious is so often overlooked. Your subconscious holds all your memories, all your beliefs, all the information. It will readily supply answers to anything you ask of it. It will always do its best to back you up, giving you any evidence it can find to support whatever idea you suggest to it. So the answer is simple; ask better questions. Note, however, that simple is not the same as easy. Most of us are conditioned to ask the wrong sort of questions, so we need to establish a new habit, a habit of asking more useful, empowering questions.

Instead of asking ‘why can’t I do this?’, try ‘how could I do this?’, or ‘if I could do this, how would it look?’, or ‘how would go about this?’. You will get answers but, if they’re not enough, try some more good questions:

  • How could I learn to do this?
  • What would be the first step?
  • Who could help me with this?
  • When would be the time to tackle this?
  • Where do people go who know about this?
  • What is another way I could approach this?

or even:

  • Does this really need doing?
  • Do I need to be the one who does it?
  • Who could I delegate this to?
  • Who would enjoy doing this?
  • What else could I do?
  • How many other ways are there to get this done?


  • What would I need to know to do this?
  • What would I have to believe to do this?
  • If I was able to do this, how would I feel?
  • If this was already done, what steps would I have taken?

When you ask questions like this your beautiful, powerful subconscious will respond, it always does. You may get memories of past successes, flashes of inspiration, the idea of calling a friend or looking in a particular book. It may take some time, it may not. You may need to focus on something else for a while but, sure enough, the answers will come to you – better answers.

Understand that your subconscious mind does not care what it gives you, it just follows instructions. Whatever you ask, it will always do its best to answer, and it has a lot to give. So create a new habit of asking better questions and expecting better answers, you may be surprised at how brilliant you really are!

What would be a good question to ask yourself today?


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Ian B

It's my belief that life is supposed to be a joyful adventure and, when you start to live it on Your terms, it CAN be - for everyone, in this lifetime. It's my aim to help You live life on Your terms and engage your Authentic Overdrive. Let's go!

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