Happiness, as Beran Wolfe* observed, is not under the radiator. Nor is it in a bigger house, a newer car, or a better job. Happiness is not to be found in having more money, time, toys, space, clothes, sex, food, drink, drugs, exercise, books, TV, sleep, holidays, furniture or chocolate. Certainly, should you choose to look, you will find many happy people who have some or all of these things, but equally you will find any number of unhappy people who have all of these and more in plentiful supply. No, happiness is not to be found under the radiator, under the bed, in the bed, in a flowerbed or up a tree. Happiness is just not to be found.
* If you observe a really happy man, you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his child, growing double dahlias or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi Desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that had rolled under the radiator, striving for it as a goal in itself. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of each day.
— W. Beran Wolfe
No, happiness is not something that you find, somewhere ‘out there’, a thing that you get ‘when’. Some people say “I’ll be happy wehn I get a better job”. Life says there’s more chance of you getting a better job if you’ll be happy. Others say “When I have more money, then I’ll be happy”. The universe replies that you’ll get more money when you’re happy and, even better, when you are happy, you’ll probably be less concerned with having the money! That’s a real win, win or, perhaps, a real bummer, depending on how full or empty your glass is!
Happiness is, oh so fortunately, an inside out job. It’s something you do, inside, something you are. You don’t ‘get’ some happy. You don’t have to earn a bit of happy or find it in the ground like some buried treasure, though a treasure it surely is. No, you can ‘be’ happy – that’s it – it’s a choice you can make. And fortunately? Yes, because that means it’s FREE! You don’t have to buy it, you don’t even need to buy a licence to do it! You just have to choose. Be happy, or not, your choice. Simple. No, not always easy, but always simple, always just a decision away.
Every morning when I get up, the first thing I decide is:
What do I want?
What am I going to choose today?
And it happens that I always choose blissfulness.
It is my choice, it is my life.
Wow! Tough choice. Misery or blissfulness. Decisions, decisions…..
And yet those are the decisions we make every day. Every day you make a choice – keep doing the same old thing, or do something new. Stay in a situation that doesn’t fill you with joy, or change, move, leave, follow your heart. Do a job you hate because it pays the bills or break free and set out on your own adventure. Buy chocolate, ice cream, beer, wine or buy a book, buy an education. You’re already making the choices, every day. You may not think you have a choice, but you always do. Just because you’ve always done it this way, or it’s always been like that, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. The past does not equal the future. You have a choice. Live with the same old stuff, or make your wildest dreams come true.
What will you choose today?